Strategies to Overcome Loneliness
Almost everybody feels lonely from time to time. However sometimes loneliness becomes overwhelming. The great irony is that as we become increasingly “connected” — on social media, video calling, and messaging — we simultaneously feel increasingly lonely
If you have ever feel isolated or disconnected and simply don’t know how to “not“ feel lonely, these strategies are for you. They will help you build a new perspective to how you can lead a more happier and fuller life
Three Life-Changing Strategies To Lead A Happier And Fuller Life
Strategy # 1: Refuse To Get Sucked Into The Feeling
Firstly quieten your mind, empty yourself emotionally and put your agenda side. If you carry your own preoccupations in the coaching conversation, it is impossible to be fully present to your client. Only when you step out of your own, can you step into your client’s version of reality.
Remember loneliness is temporary. It’s never a permanent state. Even if you’re feeling lonely now, that doesn’t mean you’ll always feel lonely. If you allow yourself to get sucked into the feeling, “Why do I always feel so alone?” “Why do others get all the support?”, or “Is there something wrong with me?”, this sense of loneliness becomes chronic and the vacuum within becomes a big gaping hole.
Over time, this chronic loneliness makes us increasingly sensitive to REJECTION. We constantly try to find acceptance and approval. And that’s a trap. We are unable to be ourselves, unable to feel at ease and just enjoy our time with self or others.
So REFUSE to get sucked into the feeling and wallow in self-pity. This is the biggest gift you can give yourself! A powerful affirmation that you can use…
“I choose to fill myself with cheerful, positive, loving thought patterns that contribute to my emotional well-being. I love and approve of myself. All is well in my world”
Strategy # 2: Stop Comparing Yourself With Others
Think of the last time you checked your Facebook or Instagram feed. Did the updates made you feel inadequate or envious, or made you feel as if your life paled in comparison to others?
Mindlessly scrolling through social media feeds, comparing your life with those of others, you will inevitably see something that makes you feel bad about yourself or your life. The fear of missing out (FOMO as they call it) aggravates the feeling of loneliness and inadequacy.
If you commit yourself to being deeply grateful for what’s good in your life, and remind yourself of it daily, you’ll be far less prone to comparing yourself with others. If someone or something triggers that ugly feeling of negative comparison, stop and remind yourself of what’s good in your life, right now. And there is so much to be grateful for.
Strategy # 3: Get OUT of the Loneliness
This is a big one. If all you ever do is go to work and then go home, it is easy to feel isolated because you are, in fact, isolating yourself. Get out and go places. Even if you don’t feel like it! Just the act of showing up at a new place will lead to new connections and greatly reduce loneliness.
Occasionally you know you need to get out, but may not know where to go. Go to places you can go by yourself. Treat yourself to a “solo” date. Being alone cannot not hold you back from experiencing life. A coffee date, a new dance class, running, gym, theatre, a new hobby, baking cookies or anything else that engages your mind and your body to get OUT of the loneliness.
The more you isolate yourself, the bigger the feeling of loneliness gets. So just wear your shoes and step out!
Feeling lonely is nothing but a choice that we all are making. And we can CHOOSE to not feel lonely. After all we are the only creators in our mind. All is well in our world. And so it is.