Gottman – Self-Test: How Lonely is Your Relationship?

Step 1 of 2

Read each statement and fill in the appropriate TRUE or FALSE bubble.

1. Being in a relationship is a lot lonelier than I thought it would be.
2. We’re not as close as I wish we were.
3. I feel an emptiness in this relationship.
4. I often feel bored when we do things together.
5. I feel very restless and sad even when we’re together.
6. Lots of times I don’t know what to do with myself.
7. At times I feel bored and restless in this relationship.
8. I long for someone I can be close to.
9. I feel so lonely it hurts.
10. Something is missing from my relationship.
11. I wish that people would call me more often.
12. I often wish I had someone to be with.
13. I don’t feel that I’m an important part of someone’s life.
14. I don’t feel that I belong to anyone.
15. I often feel emotionally isolated.
16. I feel abandoned in this relationship.
17. There is no one I can turn to.
18. I often feel left out.
19. No one knows me.
20. No one understands me.
21. There is often no one I can talk to.
22. I often feel a great need for companionship.
23. I have become very withdrawn in this relationship.
24. I feel disconnected.