Gottman – Negative Sentiment Override

Step 1 of 2
Fill this form out thinking about your immediate past (last 2 to 4 weeks), or a recent discussion of an existing relationship issue. Read each statement and fill in the appropriate TRUE or FALSE bubble.

IN THE RECENT PAST IN MY RELATIONSHIP, GENERALLY:

1. I felt hurt.
2. I felt misunderstood.
3. I thought, "I don't have to take this."
4. I felt innocent of blame for this problem.
5. I thought to myself, "Just get up and leave."
6. I was angry.
7. I felt disappointed.
8. I felt unjustly accused.
9. I thought, "My partner has no right to say those things."
10. I was frustrated.
11. I felt personally attacked.
12. I wanted to strike back.
13. I felt like I was warding off a barrage.
14. I felt like getting even.
15. I wanted to protect myself.
16. I took my partner's complaints as slights.
17. I felt like my partner was trying to control me.
18. I thought that my partner was very manipulative.
19. I felt unjustly criticized.
20. I wanted the negativity to just stop.