Gottman – Compromise

Step 1 of 2

Read each statement and fill in the appropriate TRUE or FALSE bubble.

DURING OUR ATTEMPTS TO RESOLVE CONFLICT BETWEEN US:

1. Our decisions often get made by both of us compromising.
2. We are usually good at resolving our differences.
3. I can give in when I need to, and often do.
4. I can be stubborn in an argument, but I’m not opposed to compromising.
5. I think that sharing power in a relationship is very important.
6. My partner is not a very stubborn person.
7. I don’t believe that one person is usually right and the other wrong on most issues.
8. We both believe in meeting each other half way when we disagree.
9. I am able to yield somewhat even when I feel strongly on an issue.
10. The two of us usually arrive at a better decision through give-and-take.
11. It’s a good idea to give in somewhat, in my view.
12. In discussing issues, we can usually find our common ground of agreement.
13. Everyone gets some of what they want when there is a compromise.
14. My partner can give in, and often does.
15. I don’t wait until my partner gives in before I do.
16. When I give in first, my partner then gives in, too.
17. Yielding power is not very difficult for my partner.
18. Yielding power is not very difficult for me.
19. Give-and-take in making decisions is not a problem in this relationship.
20. I will compromise even when I believe I am right.