Is Criticism Sucking Your Energy? Includes Powerful Strategies

Criticism – it’s impact

The thing is just as we have a physical similarity, physical traits that we get from our parents, we also get temperamental traits. So some of us in our personality are more emotionally sensitive, as compared to other people, who are much lesser in terms of their emotional sensitivity. So they are able to withstand much more.

So I think this comparison that “I can’t take it and you can take it” itself leads you to even more hurt. But the fact that everyone is different, and now that I am sensitive how can I learn to cope with criticism is what’s going to be extremely important.

If I have a boss who is not giving enough appreciation or rather is very quick to point out what is going wrong or is telling me, giving a lot of criticism maybe in person or in front of other people. Or maybe as a lady who’s just got married I see that the family that I am into, also maybe my extended family, my mother in law or somebody in my family, constantly tends to criticise or maybe my husband does it as well. Or as a youngster who’s going to college, I have friends who maybe laughing or I might be getting negative feedback from people around me.

So criticism usually is the trigger to the sense of inferiority complex. I think its important for all of us to differentiate between positive criticism and negative criticism. There is some criticism which actually allows us to grow as people, if u visualise plant growing, positive criticism could actually work as a water that’s going to give or the fertiliser that allows a plant to be able to grow better.

A negative criticism would be when somebody starts chipping off at that plant. Which means that makes it weaker and the chances are that the plant is going to die. So make sure that you know the difference you seek out people who give you feedback, in a very very logical, constructive manner, rather than a destructive manner.

Couple of things you could do of course is the diary of the positives. Being able to have somebody whom you could communicate your low moments and your high moments. So you need to find that friend, that parent or that teacher or it could be a counsellor or it could be anybody whom you could go and periodically make sure that you empty your box so that you release more energy.

Strategies for handling Criticism

• Don’t take it personally
• Postpone your reaction
• Take an objective view of the behaviour being criticised
• Admin your mistakes
• Know that any kind of change is good
• Have fun! Life is too short

The only thing you can truly control is you – And your reaction to what the world throws at you