Gottman – Repair Attempts

Step 1 of 2

Read each statement and fill in the appropriate TRUE or FALSE bubble.

DURING OUR ATTEMPTS TO RESOLVE CONFLICT BETWEEN US:

1. We are good at taking breaks when we need them.
2. When I apologize, it usually gets accepted by my partner.
3. I can say that I am wrong.
4. I am pretty good at calming myself down.
5. Even when arguing, we can maintain a sense of humor.
6. When my partner says we should talk to each other in a different way, it usually makes a lot of sense.
7. My attempts to repair our discussions, when they get negative, are usually effective.
8. We are pretty good listeners even when we have different positions on things.
9. If things get heated, we can usually pull out of it and change things.
10. My partner is good at soothing me when I get upset.
11. I feel confident that we can resolve most issues between us.
12. When I comment on how we could communicate better, my partner listens to me.
13. Even if things get hard at times, I know we can get past our differences.
14. We can be affectionate even when we are disagreeing.
15. Teasing and humor usually work with my partner for getting over negativity.
16. We can start all over again and improve our discussions when we need to.
17. When emotions run hot, expressing how upset I feel makes a real difference.
18. Even when there are big differences between us, we can discuss these.
19. My partner expresses appreciation for nice things I do.
20. If I keep trying to communicate, it will eventually work.