Gottman – Accepting Influence

Step 1 of 2

Read each statement and fill in the appropriate TRUE or FALSE bubble.

WHEN WE DISCUSS OUR RELATIONSHIP ISSUES:

1. I find that I am really interested in my partner’s opinion on our basic issues.
2. I usually learn a lot from my partner even when we disagree.
3. I want my partner to feel that what he or she says really counts with me.
4. I generally want my partner to feel influential in this relationship.
5. I can listen to my partner, but only up to a point.
6. My partner has a lot of basic common sense.
7. I try to communicate respect even during our disagreements.
8. I don’t keep trying to convince my partner so that I will eventually win out.
9. I don’t reject my partner’s opinions out of hand.
10. My partner is rational enough to take seriously when we discuss our issues.
11. I believe in lots of give and take in our discussions.
12. I am very persuasive, but don’t usually try to win arguments with my partner.
13. I feel important in our decisions.
14. My partner usually has good ideas.
15. My partner is basically a great help as a problem-solver.
16. I try to listen respectfully even when I disagree.
17. My ideas for solutions are not better than my partner’s.
18. I can usually find something to agree with in my partner’s position.
19. My partner is not usually too emotional.
20. I am not the one who needs to make the major decisions in this relationship.